LEARN TO FORGIVE
Forgiveness is the healer of relationships. It heals both the person who forgives and the other who is forgiven. If you forgive, you have nothing to lose. If you do not forgive, you lose everything.
1. Aim for the ideal. The ultimate test of forgiveness is when you do good to someone who has hurt you.
2. Forgive someone out of an innate feeling of goodness, not out of fear of divine punishment or out of obligation
3. Forgiving, however, does not mean that you allow yourself to be abused. Forgiveness goes hand in hand with justice. The person who needs to forgive also needs to be helped, and to seek help. The abused wife needs to forgive the abusive spouse. At the same time however, forgiveness is not inconsistent with the need to redefine the relationship or put an end to the abuse.
4. Forgiveness can reduce or even end the pain. When pain does not go away, there should not be righteous desire to inflict pain in return. That does not really bring peace.
5. Forgiveness goes hand in hand with repentance. The offender should also make amends in the spirit of justice. The wheel of justice should be allowed to roll impersonally for the good of all.
6. To refuse to forgive someone allows that person to continue to hurt you. Forgiveness allows us to go through life with the light ease of peaceful relationships.
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The Theosophical Society of the Philippines
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